tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3359251863867628240.post7502025430483222364..comments2023-05-29T08:54:02.815-07:00Comments on Jules in 中国: Facing New RealitiesJuleshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05171193034926733861noreply@blogger.comBlogger1125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3359251863867628240.post-48686592209791899382012-09-03T21:04:18.137-07:002012-09-03T21:04:18.137-07:00I know what you're talking about. Even though ...I know what you're talking about. Even though life in China like it's right now is something that I could imagine doing forever, but being a wife and a mother in China is a totally different thing. You two are planning to marry next year, we are probably not going to make any plans for that while I'm still studying for the next 1,5 years. But still, as turning 25 soon, I also worry about the future and have the need to have some kind of plans for the future.<br /><br />I agree with your top 3 difficulties. I'm not tolerant to unwanted opinions or advice either. I've grown to be a bit more tolerant during these two years, but I still feel hurt in situations where Chinese people wouldn't get hurt.<br /><br />I guess the scary part is that you can't know what being a mom in China is like before you actually are on, and can't know if you really want to be in China forever before you do that.<br /><br />Talking about marriage, raising kids and that sort of things is very important before marriage I think. For examample ideas about raising kinds can be very different in different cultures, that's also someting I'm slightly worried about. It's a situation where everyone disagrees but everyone is right. So how to decide if something is done like in Finland/America or in China?<br /><br />Sorry I have more questions than answers for you Jules, but wanted to let you know that you aren't the only one with these thoughts!Sarahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16856691519582315743noreply@blogger.com